Posts in Parenting

Experts tend to agree that there is no single style of parenting that works for all children, nor any “right” way to raise a child. Some children, for example, thrive with firm boundaries, while others excel with independence, flexibility, and respect for their self-directed nature. Similarly, some children have a strong interest in being social, while others prefer alone and quiet time. Temperament plays a role and having an understanding of what characteristics of your child appear to be their nature can help guide parenting decisions. This section will contain articles that pertain to specific parenting-related topics and issues that have come up in our discussion with parents of middle-school age children.

Topics/Posts

* How to Talk to Your Teenager About Pornography
* 7 Crippling Parenting Behaviors That Keep Children From Growing Into Leaders — Forbes Magazine (on line)
* You’ll Never Learn! Students can’t resist multitasking, and it’s impairing their memory.
*When Role Models Fall: Talking to Boys About Heroes Gone Bad
*Train a Parent, Spare a Child
* How To Talk with Kids about a School Shooting
* Money and Your Kids
* Parenting Links
* Adolescents and Romantic Relationships
* Help your daughter resist the call to be too sexy, too soon
* Boys and Body Image Tips
* This American Life: Middle School
* School of Hard Knocks:‘How Children Succeed,’ by Paul Tough
* Changes in the Parent-Child Relationship -Middle School (related to helping your pre-teen successfully take on the new demands of middle school.)

  1. NYT- How to Talk to Your Teenager About Pornography

    [ By on May 13, 2014 ]

    How to Talk to Your Teenager About Pornography By LISA DAMOUR MARCH 31, 2014, 12:24 PM 87 Comments Andrea Lev

    In Does Porn Hurt Children in the Sunday Review, David Segal pointed to the absence of definitive research linking pornography exposure during adolescence to negative outcomes for teenagers and noted the ethical impossibility of conducting the kinds of studies that might prove, or disprove, such links. In spite of the lack of evidence of

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  2. 7 Crippling Parenting Behaviors That Keep Children From Growing Into Leaders — Forbes Magazine (on line)

    [ By on January 21, 2014 ]

    1/16/2014 @ 11:05AM Forbes Magazine Link to artile 7 Crippling Parenting Behaviors That Keep Children From Growing Into Leaders While I spend my professional time now as a career success coach, writer, and leadership trainer, I was a marriage and family therapist in my past, and worked for several years with couples, families, and children. Through that experience, I witnessed a very wide array of both functional and dysfunctional parenting behaviors. As a parent myself, I’ve learned that all the wisdom and love in the world doesn’t necessarily protect you from parenting in ways that hold your children back from thriving, gaining independence and becoming the leaders they have the potential to be. ...

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  3. A Line Between Sweet and Skimpy

    [ By on May 13, 2013 ]

    New York Times May 10, 2013 A Line Between Sweet and Skimpy By BRUCE FEILER It first happened to me this spring. My daughters, who had just turned 8, came bounding into the room to show off new outfits they were wearing to an extended-family gathering. My eyes bulged. The dresses drooped provocatively off the shoulder and offered other peekaboos of their bodies. Sure, as a parent, I figured I would one day face clothing battles with my children. Politicians aren’t the only ones who draw red lines. But so soon? As a father, I find these conversations particularly challenging. On the one hand, I’ve internalized all the messages that I should not ...

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  4. Article on the connection between sleep deprivation and ADHD symptoms

    [ By on May 07, 2013 ]

    Diagnosing the Wrong Deficit  Link to article Also see related letter by Marc Weissbluth: To the Editor: Associating A.D.H.D symptoms with sleep problems is nothing new. Children who do not breathe well during sleep were described in 1914 by Dr. W. L. Ballenger: “Restlessness during the night is a prominent symptom. ... Daytime restlessness is also a characteristic sign. ... The child is fretful and peevish, or is inclined to turn from one amusement to another. ... The mental faculties are often much impaired ... difficult attention ... is very often present. The child is listless and has difficulty in applying himself continuously to his play, studies, ...

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  5. The Magic of Family Dinners: There is a strong inverse correlation between the frequency of family dinners and teen substance abuse

    [ By on April 01, 2013 ]

    The Magic of Family Dinners For the past couple of decades, Columbia University’s Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse (CASA) has surveyed thousands of teenagers and their parents about drug and alcohol use. While many of the trends are increasingly alarming, one finding has remained consistent and comforting. There is a strong inverse correlation between the frequency of family dinners and teen substance abuse. It’s not the herbs in the baked chicken or Grandma’s secret ingredient in the chocolate cake. It’s much simpler than that. Adolescents who spend time interacting with their parents and siblings are much less likely to abuse alcohol and drugs. Compared to teens who have frequent family dinners ...

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  6. Access to Internet Pornography: Are Parents’ Concerns Justified?

    [ By on February 15, 2013 ]

    Access to Internet Pornography: Are Parents’ Concerns Justified? By Terri Apter, Ph.D. Created Mar 22 2011 - 11:30am Type in any common female name, or word for sweet (such as lollipop) or flower (such a blue orchid), and a few more clicks can bring up sites that open onto a world of eye-searing pornography, including images of child rape and other acts of sexual torture. These are not sites restricted to private systems that require credit card payments or age verification; these are easily accessible by children. It is estimated that 12 % of 5 to 7 year olds and 16% o 8 to 17 year olds ...

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  7. When Role Models Fall: Talking to Boys About Heroes Gone Bad: (From Huffpost- PARENTS)

    [ By on January 17, 2013 ]

    When Role Models Fall: Talking to Boys About Heroes Gone Bad                                HuffPost- PARENTS -- Posted: 01/16/2013 10:08 am  By:  Author, research psychologist and gender scholar In my first book, Raising Boys Without Men, I noted the importance of actively seeking out male role models for boys growing up in homes without fathers. But we know that even boys with dads at home benefit from having a variety of personal heroes. That's because boys will pull from the different people in their lives the traits and qualities they need and admire (which is why role models for boys needn't, and shouldn't, be exclusively male). Viable role ...

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  8. Train a Parent, Spare a Child –New York Times — Jan 11th, 2013

    [ By on January 15, 2013 ]

    New York Times Fashion & Style  January 11, 2013 Train a Parent, Spare a Child By BRUCE FEILER  SOMEONE asked me recently what my New Year’s resolution was as a parent. Without thinking, I said, “more creative bribing.” I find the issue of bribing children — or to be more precise, the giving of blunt, uncreative rewards for desired behavior (“If you just stop kicking that seat in front of you on the plane, I’ll give you 10 minutes of iPad time”; “Clean your room this weekend, I’ll give you 10 bucks”; “If you use good manners at Grandma’s house, I’ll let you have an extra brownie”) — to be ...

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  9. How To Talk with Kids about a School Shooting — (Re: Tragedy in CT 12/14/12)

    [ By on December 15, 2012 ]

    How To Talk with Kids about a School Shooting "We chat, talk, tweet, stream, and absorb violence with a hunger. It’s just so horrifying that sometimes it’s hard not to watch. We follow along in bed, on the bus, in our cars (!), and during our face to face time with loved ones and family. This news is upsetting and torrential. Many of us are left feeling a bit helpless or vulnerable. So are our children." - Wendy Sue Swanson "When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for ...

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  10. Parenting Links

    [ By on December 04, 2012 ]

    Madeline Levine, PhD PBS - The Whole Child Faber/Mazlish (Authors of: How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk) Claudia M Gold, MD (Author of Keeping Your Child in Mind) Iowa State University: The Science of Parenting Commonsense Media - Setting Computer Limits The Collaborative Problem Solving Approach  

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